How to Win an Argument
When I say “How to Win an Argument” I don’t mean how you can come out on top. It’s about making it a win, win for both people!
We’ve all found ourselves in an argument at some point in our lives – whether it’s with our partner, family or friends. Fighting with someone and throwing around verbal punches rarely feels good, especially when you both walk away without resolving the situation.
A lot of the time we find ourselves getting defensive, and find it challenging to understand where the other person is coming from. We try desperately to try and get them to see things from our point of view and get super frustrated when they just “don’t seem to get it.” We sometimes end up reacting by saying or doing things we regret in the heat of the moment without really thinking about the repercussions.
Arguing stems from a place of fear but a lot of the time it’s hard for us to see what that fear really is. Plus, let’s face it – it’s hard to face the fact that we have a fear around something we view as someone else’s fault.
To truly understand what’s making you so angry, it’s important to ask yourself what exactly is causing you to feel threatened and lash out. In this weeks video I share the one major key that will help you minimize arguments, and save you a lot of time and frustration.
How to Win an Argument recap:
When you find yourself in an argument it’s important to recognize that your reaction has more to do with you than the other person. They may have triggered something in you, but the choice is yours in regards to how you choose to react.
It’s important to understand which value of yours is feeling threatened in that moment so you’re able to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. The more self-awareness you have, the more you will understand why certain things affect you and make you feel a certain way. I highly recommend doing the FREE values exercise below to help you navigate your way through arguments with a bit more ease. When you start understanding each others values, it makes it easier to compromise. When you’re able to do that, you both come out as winners!
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