I’ve always struggled with people cancelling on me. It would drive me nuts! I felt like people didn’t respect my time, or I didn’t matter enough to them and I became really frustrated and felt defeated.
This is a terrible mindset to be in. Not only am I feeling sorry for myself, but I’m also not taking into consideration how the other person feels or what they might be going through that’s causing them to cancel in the first place.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up and lost in our own thoughts and assumptions and fall into victim mentality where woe is me.
To live a more fulfilling life it’s important you find ways that will help pull you out of this negative thinking trap. It requires you to retrain your brain a bit but once you get into the habit of it, you will feel so much more free!
Check out this weeks video to see how I’ve been able to shift my mindset about an issue that has been one of my biggest pet peeves my entire life!
How I Deal with People Cancelling on me
The first thing I’ve gotten better at is not personalizing things. I know it really has nothing to do with me, it’s about them and what their needs are. Being able to let go of my own emotional attachment to the situation makes it much easier to accept their need to cancel.
I’ve also been able to reframe the situation by looking at how I can be grateful for the fact that they cancelled. Instead of getting frustrated and feeling sorry for myself, I now see it as unexpected free time where I can do anything I want! Maybe I can finally watch that movie I’ve always wanted to watch, or go for a walk and explore, or dive into a new book.
Whenever you feel disappointed try reframing it and think about what you can be grateful for with this unexpected change. It’s amazing how much better you’ll feel when you can see the glass half full!
If you enjoyed this video you may also like Letting go of Expectations
Want this summer to be the start of an amazing year ahead?! CLICK HERE to check out #theyearofme program!