I know how intimidating it can feel to be at an event or a party and not know anyone. It’s easy to feel awkward, or out of place and can be really challenging to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, especially if you’re more of an introvert. I have been in this situation so many times and I sometimes still need to give myself a bit of a pep talk before entering new territory!
It’s normal to feel a little anxious in this situation, but it’s important you don’t avoid these outings out of pure fear because it’s just going to make it harder the next time. The more you do something the more confident you become. That goes for anything – even meeting new people. Once you get in the groove of it you’ll notice a huge change in your confidence. It just takes a bit of time to work up to it.
Check out this weeks video to find out what’s worked for me when it comes to meeting new people and see if you can start working these tips into your own social life.
Tips on feeling confident when meeting new people
People don’t know how uncomfortable you really are
To put your mind at ease a bit, remember people can’t read your mind or know how uncomfortable you actually might feel. People are more concerned with how they’re feeling and how they’re showing up in the situation to care about what might be going on in your head. We’re really not all that different from one another! People want to be liked so they’re going to focus on what they need to do to feel that way.
Remember to smile
Don’t always feel the need to be talking. When you put that much pressure on yourself you might end up saying something you regret. What can be more powerful than words sometimes is a smile! It allows you to look as though you’re interested in what other people are talking about and makes you look more approachable. I used to be much more shy when I was younger and wasn’t one to necessarily participate in conversations in large groups, but people always seemed to like me. Inside I wondered why because I didn’t feel they really got to know me. I then started to realize how powerful a smile can be. I always made sure I was smiling and enjoying what they had to say. At the end of the day people like happy looking people! It’s as simple as that. So if you don’t have much to say don’t sweat it! As long as you’re showing off those pearly whites you have nothing to worry about 🙂
Now, if you are really struggling to start a conversation a great and easy tip is to ask questions! What can you learn about this person? People tend to enjoy talking about themselves so instead of worrying about what you need to say, focus on questions you can ask someone. This gives you more space to think about things you may want to say in response to them or it might open up more questions to be asked. Eventually you will find it flows into more of a natural conversation.
Give a genuine compliment
Compliments are another great way to connect with people. Find something you like about them or what they’re wearing and let them know! Just make sure it’s a genuine compliment and not just something to say. It can be a great way to bond with someone and can easily turn into a flowing conversation.
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