When you make an effort to live a positive, fulfilling life it can feel frustrating when those around you don’t seem to share the same sentiment. Some people struggle to see the glass half full, and when you’re surrounded by that type of negativity it’s hard not to let it drag you down. This week I want to share some tips on how you can maintain your positive vibes despite the negative Nelly’s in your life!
Tips on dealing with negative people
Recognize if it’s venting or complaining
It’s helpful to be able to recognize when someone needs to vent oppose to someone who just likes to complain. When you can differentiate the two, it makes it easier to decide how you want to show up in the situation. We all need to vent sometimes, that’s how we work at getting over things more quickly. You need to talk it out. So, if you can tell when someone needs to get something off their chest and you’re willing to listen, that’s all you need to do. You will likely even feel good after because you will recognize that you were there for someone who needed you in that moment.
Now, when it comes to complainers you probably notice it tends to be more frequent and follows the same pattern of something not being good enough, etc. If you start to find it’s wearing you down, it’s important to set boundaries for yourself. I recommend excusing yourself from the situation. Maybe you have a phone call to make or a meeting to get to 😉 Also, notice if you ever get sucked into complaining with them, especially if you agree with them on some level. It’s important to check in and ask yourself if any solution is being presented and how talking about this is really making you feel. Realize if the complaining is serving a purpose for you.
Don’t feel pressure to fix the problem
Sometimes we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to help people through whatever they’re struggling with. It’s important to realize that some people don’t really want help – they just like to complain. When you try and help someone who isn’t open to it, it can feel really frustrating because it’s hard to understand why some people just don’t seem to get a solution that seems so simple to us. When you find yourself starting to bubble up inside, remind yourself that it’s not your responsibility to pull them out of their funk. Also, ask yourself why you’re choosing to let someone else’s problem affect you so much.
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