Confidence is one of those topics I LOVE talking about! It’s something most of us are always striving to find more of, and even though we know what confidence means and looks like, sometimes we still struggle to implement strategies to achieve it for ourselves.
It’s important to understand that there are different levels of confidence. The first is surface level confidence. This is where you appear confident on the outside but don’t necessarily feel it on the inside. This is where the classic phrase “fake it till you make it” comes in. It’s not necessarily a bad thing because sometimes by faking it we’re allowing ourselves to learn and get more comfortable in a situation. Once you get more comfortable with something you will start to notice your confidence naturally increase.
To be truly confident in who you are from a deeper standpoint, it’s important to work on what’s called your core confidence. This takes constant work and requires you to be patient with yourself. You didn’t enter this world without confidence. Somewhere down the line it’s been stripped from you – it’s mainly due to people judging you, reacting to you in a negative way, or making assumptions about you. These hurtful experiences are now etched into your own personal blueprint without you even possibly realizing.
There is one thing you need to be aware of before you can truly start working on building your core confidence and I share just what that is in this weeks video 🙂
Self Confidence cheat sheet:
Here are some tips to keep in mind to help you work on your confidence. However, it’s important you understand your core fear before putting these strategies into place. Remember – it’s one thing to know something, but another thing to really feel it.
Don’t personalize things!
It’s easy to take offense to the way people speak to you, criticize you, or treat you. A lot of the time it makes you question yourself and you can almost feel whatever confidence you did have slip away. The key here is to understand that everyone has different opinions, a different way of doing things and a different set of values. It doesn’t mean they’re right and you’re wrong. Realize that however they’re reacting towards you, is a reflection of who they are, not who you are. Just keep standing up for what you believe in because being able to do this is how you end up oozing with more confidence.
Fake it till you make it.
We’ve all heard this saying before. This is very surface level, but it allows you a certain level of control, which can help boost your confidence in the long run. You will appear more confident on the outside even if you don’t feel it inside, but the more you practice this strategy the more you start to realize how confident you can feel in faking it.
Ask yourself these 6 words constantly – What do I have to lose?
Whenever you’re in a situation where you’re stepping outside your comfort zone, or feeling unsure or nervous – ask yourself “what do I have to lose.” You will be surprised how insignificant the answer typically is. We often like to think of the worst case scenario in a situation but when you think about it, how often does the worst case actually present itself?
Look at people and smile!
When you look happy, you look and feel confident. And it also feels good when you can share a smile with someone. These small moments are part of the building blocks to growing your confidence so don’t underestimate the power of your pearly whites.
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