For many people it can be challenging to comfort someone going through a tough time. It’s common for a lot of people to shy away from emotional situations because they feel awkward or uncomfortable. A lot of the time they don’t know what to say, worry about doing the wrong thing or they want to fix it but don’t know how.
A few weeks ago I went through a rough time. Within the span of 5 days a relationship ended, I got sick and a friend of mine passed away in a car accident. It’s been awhile since I’ve felt that drained emotionally, mentally and physically and craved real emotional support.
It’s not always easy being vulnerable and talking about the hard things you’re going through and how you’re feeling. However, I also started to realize how difficult it can be for others on the receiving end of it.
How to Comfort Someone Going Through a Tough Time
It requires vulnerability to create space for someone to be vulnerable. It can be challenging to hold space for someone else. What I mean by holding space is being able to create an environment where all you do is listen and express empathy with no judgment.
People don’t always want or expect you to fix things for them. A lot of the time things can’t be fixed the way we would want to fix them. It’s about listening, comforting and honestly just letting them know you’re there for them.
If you struggle and feel uncomfortable holding space for others I want to challenge you. Ask yourself why, and what about it makes you feel so uncomfortable. If you want to be there for someone in their time of need, how can you find a way that feels good for you?
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