relationships

How to Win an Argument

15 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged argue / argument / fear / fighting / relationships / values by Sharon Stokes

How to Win an Argument

When I say “How to Win an Argument” I don’t mean how you can come out on top. It’s about making it a win, win for both people!

We’ve all found ourselves in an argument at some point in our lives – whether it’s with our partner, family or friends. Fighting with someone and throwing around verbal punches rarely feels good, especially when you both walk away without resolving the situation.

A lot of the time we find ourselves getting defensive, and find it challenging to understand where the other person is coming from. We try desperately to try and get them to see things from our point of view and get super frustrated when they just “don’t seem to get it.” We sometimes end up reacting by saying or doing things we regret in the heat of the moment without really thinking about the repercussions.

Arguing stems from a place of fear but a lot of the time it’s hard for us to see what that fear really is. Plus, let’s face it – it’s hard to face the fact that we have a fear around something we view as someone else’s fault.

To truly understand what’s making you so angry, it’s important to ask yourself what exactly is causing you to feel threatened and lash out. In this weeks video I share the one major key that will help you minimize arguments, and save you a lot of time and frustration.

Do Women Get Over a Breakup Faster? 1

7 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged breakup / divorce / ex / get over a breakup / letting go / relationships / single / vulnerability / vulnerable by Sharon Stokes

Get over a breakup

I’m so excited to share this weeks video with you because I had the opportunity to try something new 🙂 I had a viewer write in with a really interesting question around how to get over a breakup and I couldn’t wait to tackle it!

Relationships are definitely one of the hardest things to navigate in life and when they end, we can’t help but compare ourselves to how the other person is handling it. We want to be able to bounce back quickly and move on like nothing happened. Much easier said than done, am I right?

There are some key factors that play a huge role in how quickly you move on after a breakup and it’s really important to give yourself the right amount of time to go through them.

Click the video below to discover the one essential step you need to take to be able to fully move on after a breakup!

The Gift of Vulnerability

1 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged courage / fears / letting go / relationships / strength / vulnerability / vulnerable by Sharon Stokes

How much do you feel you hold back in your relationships? How willing are you to show vulnerability and open up about your fears and dreams?

It can be really tough to be vulnerable and put yourself in a position where you feel completely exposed. You’re taking a risk where you might experience pain and rejection. However, taking that risk could also result in an amazing, deeper connection with someone. Vulnerability shows courage, strength, and a deep sense of worthiness. It’s normal to feel scared when being vulnerable, but the key is to walk hand in hand with that fear and not allow it to hold us back from sharing who we really are with each other.

As C.S Lewis once said – “To love at all is to be vulnerable.”

This week I really wanted to share a story about vulnerability with you, and the powerful impact it had on me.

Letting go of Expectations

25 Mar, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged beliefs / expectations / letting go / relationships / values by Sharon Stokes

No Expectations As I sit here on Good Friday I can’t help but think about my friends and family and how supportive they’ve all been throughout my journey to become a coach and entrepreneur.
I can be pretty hard on myself when it comes to achieving certain goals in life, and I set some pretty ridiculous expectations for myself. As I learn to let go of those expectations I’m noticing how much more free I feel to create and be inspired. Those expectations have always kept me in a box and it was hard to see beyond it. I would be so focused on achieving a certain expectation, that it became difficult to see all the other wonderful things unfolding right in front of me.

It’s also really common for us to expect things from other people. In this weeks video I’m going to share what happens when you expect things from others, why they might not be able to give it to us, and the importance of releasing it, while still staying true to yourself and what you want in life.