Monthly Archives: April 2016

How to Let go of the Past

28 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged confidence / fear / forgive yourself / freedom / happiness / happy / let go / let go of the past / mistake / no regrets by Sharon Stokes

How to let go of the past

We can be so freaking hard on ourselves sometimes! I’m sure there’s been a time in your life when you’ve done something you regret. Maybe you wish you had said something different or reacted differently in a situation. It’s easy to beat ourselves up after the fact, but it’s really important for your own mental health that you find a way to let it go and forgive yourself.

When we hold onto mistakes we remain stuck and end up staying on this wheel of regret which feeds our fears and insecurities. It’s important to acknowledge what you learned from the experience so when you’re faced with a similar situation you know exactly how you would handle it.

The past is the past and all you can do is learn from it, let it go and allow yourself to grow. It can be the most painful experiences that really force us to make changes in our thoughts and behaviours – but without those experiences we wouldn’t have the opportunity to learn how to be the best version of ourselves.

I hope this weeks video helps to shift your perspective about regrets and allows you to let go of the past and focus on who you want to be as you move forward towards a really fulfilling life!

How to Say NO! 3

20 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged confidence / fear / happiness / happy / Justin Bieber / no / say no / what do you mean by Sharon Stokes

Say NO

What do you mean? Oooh
When you nod your head yes
But you wanna say no
What do you mean? Heeey

I never thought I would quote Justin Bieber but there’s a first for everything!

I know a lot of people who have trouble spitting out the ‘N’ word. I believe many of us struggle with this because we’re people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone else is happy – even at our own expense. There is also a lot of guilt that comes up for many of us when we say no.

It’s important to learn how to stand your ground, because saying yes all the time when you wanna say no can cause you a lot of unnecessary stress! It also builds a lot of resentment towards other people when it’s really an internal issue you need to work on yourself. You shouldn’t blame other people for making you feel like you should say yes – that decision is fully on you and you need to work through why it’s so difficult for you to be honest about what you really want.

Being truthful and saying no actually shows a lot of confidence, and people will respect you more for staying true to who you are and what you want. People will likely be even more drawn to you because confidence is an attractive quality to have.

In this weeks video I give you some new perspectives to think about that will help you feel good about saying no! Check it out 🙂

How to Win an Argument

15 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged argue / argument / fear / fighting / relationships / values by Sharon Stokes

How to Win an Argument

When I say “How to Win an Argument” I don’t mean how you can come out on top. It’s about making it a win, win for both people!

We’ve all found ourselves in an argument at some point in our lives – whether it’s with our partner, family or friends. Fighting with someone and throwing around verbal punches rarely feels good, especially when you both walk away without resolving the situation.

A lot of the time we find ourselves getting defensive, and find it challenging to understand where the other person is coming from. We try desperately to try and get them to see things from our point of view and get super frustrated when they just “don’t seem to get it.” We sometimes end up reacting by saying or doing things we regret in the heat of the moment without really thinking about the repercussions.

Arguing stems from a place of fear but a lot of the time it’s hard for us to see what that fear really is. Plus, let’s face it – it’s hard to face the fact that we have a fear around something we view as someone else’s fault.

To truly understand what’s making you so angry, it’s important to ask yourself what exactly is causing you to feel threatened and lash out. In this weeks video I share the one major key that will help you minimize arguments, and save you a lot of time and frustration.

Do Women Get Over a Breakup Faster? 1

7 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged breakup / divorce / ex / get over a breakup / letting go / relationships / single / vulnerability / vulnerable by Sharon Stokes

Get over a breakup

I’m so excited to share this weeks video with you because I had the opportunity to try something new 🙂 I had a viewer write in with a really interesting question around how to get over a breakup and I couldn’t wait to tackle it!

Relationships are definitely one of the hardest things to navigate in life and when they end, we can’t help but compare ourselves to how the other person is handling it. We want to be able to bounce back quickly and move on like nothing happened. Much easier said than done, am I right?

There are some key factors that play a huge role in how quickly you move on after a breakup and it’s really important to give yourself the right amount of time to go through them.

Click the video below to discover the one essential step you need to take to be able to fully move on after a breakup!

The Gift of Vulnerability

1 Apr, 2016 in Sharon's Blog tagged courage / fears / letting go / relationships / strength / vulnerability / vulnerable by Sharon Stokes

How much do you feel you hold back in your relationships? How willing are you to show vulnerability and open up about your fears and dreams?

It can be really tough to be vulnerable and put yourself in a position where you feel completely exposed. You’re taking a risk where you might experience pain and rejection. However, taking that risk could also result in an amazing, deeper connection with someone. Vulnerability shows courage, strength, and a deep sense of worthiness. It’s normal to feel scared when being vulnerable, but the key is to walk hand in hand with that fear and not allow it to hold us back from sharing who we really are with each other.

As C.S Lewis once said – “To love at all is to be vulnerable.”

This week I really wanted to share a story about vulnerability with you, and the powerful impact it had on me.