Monthly Archives: May 2017

How Instagram Almost Made Me Lose Real Friends

28 May, 2017 in Sharon's Blog / Uncategorized tagged how to get instagram follows / Instagram friends / Instagram stories / life coach / life map / positive mindset / sharon stokes / social media nightmare / Toronto Life Coach by Sharon Stokes

How Instagram almost made me lose real friends

A couple weeks ago I had what you can call a social media nightmare! It made me realize how much we really turn to social media for the truth about things, when in fact most of the time we’re only getting a small portion of something much bigger.

I know people who scroll through other peoples social feeds and compare their life to it, which only leaves them feeling more empty inside. Others worry about judgement, while some spend hours creeping someone’s profile trying to find answers to something. Before they know it they’ve gone down this rabbit hole ending up on someone else’s profile they don’t even know!

It’s a whole other world that we on some level believe to be reality, but a lot of the time we’re left filling in the blanks with our own stories not even realizing it! These stories usually aren’t pleasant and leave us with really uncomfortable feelings.

My social media story has to do with my Instagram. Check out this weeks video to find out what happened!

How to Deal With The Backseat Drivers in Your Life

22 May, 2017 in Sharon's Blog / Uncategorized tagged backseat drivers / controlling people / controlling relationship / empowerment / how to deal with negativity / life coach / life map / manipulation / peer preasure / positive mindset / sharon stokes / Toronto Life Coach by Sharon Stokes

How to Deal With the Backseat Drivers in Your Life

Backseat drivers are part of the Life Map language. They are people in your life that you have allowed to control you in some way. Notice how I said YOU’VE allowed to control YOU.

Think about when you’re driving and you have someone in the backseat telling you how to drive or which way to go. You still have control of the wheel, but sometimes that other voice in your ear makes you question your own skills and abilities. So sometimes you choose to listen to them instead of your own inner GPS.

Recognizing who the backseat drivers are in your life will help you set boundaries and remain authentic to who you are and what you want. We can learn the greatest lessons from our backseat drivers if we’re open to learning about ourselves through the challenges they present us with. We can uncover many unhealthy patterns in our life by taking a look at how our backseat drivers have influenced us. Once we understand the lessons in these encounters we can take that information into the present and alter how we communicate and hold onto our power.

In this weeks video I share a couple tools that will help with your anger and frustration when you’re face to face with a backseat driver.

How to Bring Joy to You and Those Around You 3

15 May, 2017 in Sharon's Blog / Uncategorized tagged how to be happy / how to be positive / how to find joy in life / joy to the world / joyful / life coach / life map / positive mindset / sharon stokes / Toronto Life Coach / working in customer service by Sharon Stokes

How to Bring Joy to You and Those Around You

Wanna know one of life’s biggest game changers? I make a conscious effort everyday to do more of this one thing, and it has created such joy for myself and others around me. It’s something so simple, yet I see so many people not doing it!

Joy is what feeds a positive mindset. Without creating joy in your life, it’s much more difficult to remain in high spirits. Joy is also contagious. When you’re able to live with a joyful heart it shows other people how they can do the same.

Engaging with people around us is a big part of what can bring us joy. However, with all the distractions in life like cell phones and busy schedules, we forget to create space for those moments that can bring us joy. A lot of the time they’re right in front of us, but can be gone in a flash if we’re not paying attention.

In this weeks video I want to remind you how one simple act can not only shift your day to a much happier place, but also those around you. Give it a try and see how different you feel!

Why it’s OK to Cry 1

8 May, 2017 in Sharon's Blog tagged how to show emotion / i hate crying / life coach / life map / sharon stokes / tears / Toronto Life Coach / why crying is good for you / why do humans cry / why we cry by Sharon Stokes

Why it’s ok to Cry

I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with crying. It feels so good to let it all out, but when it shows up when we don’t really want it to we can end up feeling a lot of shame and embarrassment around it.

This type of vulnerability makes many of us feel weak. I’m always fighting against this stigma because the way I see it is it takes a lot of strength to be willing to express emotion, or own it when it happens.

Last week I released a video where I got emotional. It didn’t stop me from putting it out there but I did have to get out of my own head a little bit and put aside my fear of what other people might think.

Since releasing the video and receiving an overwhelming positive response, it became more clear why I knew I wanted to share that video. I’ve come to realize that sharing my journey isn’t about me. It’s about others. I think that’s why I’m able to be ok with my vulnerability. I see it more as a service than anything else.

It’s amazing that when you can own who you are and how you feel, how much you give permission to others to do the same.

I’m excited to share this weeks video with you where I dive more into why its important to allow yourself to feel.

Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience: I Didn’t Expect THIS to Happen!

1 May, 2017 in Sharon's Blog tagged 21-day meditation / how to meditate / life coach / life map / meditation tips / Oprah / Oprah and Deepak / sharon stokes / spiritual journey / spirituality / Toronto Life Coach by Sharon Stokes

Meditation

Meditation has always been one of my biggest challenges. I could never justify just sitting in silence without thinking. I also never really understood the value of it, and just assumed I didn’t really need it.

The last couple of months something has been slowly shifting in me. I wasn’t exactly sure what was happening, but when I had a client mention she was going to be doing the Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience, I decided to jump onboard as well.

I’ve been on a really interesting journey the last few months and during this weeks video I ended up releasing something that has been blocking me for a really long time. I had some hesitation around if I should publicly post this as it’s extremely raw and vulnerable, but I believe part of my purpose is to share my journey as well as helping others discover theirs.

It’s really just about being human, owning who you are and learning how to stand in your power, but the only way you can do that is by releasing all the heavy layers getting in your way – and it takes work!