Fear of Public Speaking
Getting up in front of a crowd and giving a presentation can be one of the most terrifying feelings ever! According to a survey, people fear public speaking more than death! Sometimes it can’t be avoided though, especially if its part of your job. In this weeks video I want to give you some tips that have helped me overcome the anxiety I feel when I have to get up in front of a group.
Feel confident meeting new people
I know how intimidating it can feel to be at an event or a party and not know anyone. It’s easy to feel awkward, or out of place and can be really challenging to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, especially if you’re more of an introvert. I have been in this situation so many times and I sometimes still need to give myself a bit of a pep talk before entering new territory!
It’s normal to feel a little anxious in this situation, but it’s important you don’t avoid these outings out of pure fear because it’s just going to make it harder the next time. The more you do something the more confident you become. That goes for anything – even meeting new people. Once you get in the groove of it you’ll notice a huge change in your confidence. It just takes a bit of time to work up to it.
Check out this weeks video to find out what’s worked for me when it comes to meeting new people and see if you can start working these tips into your own social life.
How to deal with annoying people
I find it fascinating how certain people can get under our skin and irritate us beyond belief. I find it even more interesting how other people may not be phased at all by the exact same thing!
Some people have the ability to trigger us in unusual ways and it’s so easy to judge them based on how we interpret their actions and behaviour. There are always clues behind why certain things bother us. To be able to understand it more clearly and let it go, you have to take a step back and really ask yourself why that particular thing is bothering you so much. Many of us don’t think to ask ourselves this question and continue on feeling more annoyed than we need to.
I believe it’s important to start challenging yourself next time you feel annoyed by someone. You might come across some fascinating discoveries!
The struggle with people cancelling
I’ve always struggled with people cancelling on me. It would drive me nuts! I felt like people didn’t respect my time, or I didn’t matter enough to them and I became really frustrated and felt defeated.
This is a terrible mindset to be in. Not only am I feeling sorry for myself, but I’m also not taking into consideration how the other person feels or what they might be going through that’s causing them to cancel in the first place.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up and lost in our own thoughts and assumptions and fall into victim mentality where woe is me.
To live a more fulfilling life it’s important you find ways that will help pull you out of this negative thinking trap. It requires you to retrain your brain a bit but once you get into the habit of it, you will feel so much more free!
Check out this weeks video to see how I’ve been able to shift my mindset about an issue that has been one of my biggest pet peeves my entire life!
NYC
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve wanted to live in NYC. I wrote about it in my journal and day dreamed about it constantly. I wanted to attend Juilliard so badly I even had them mail me an info package so I could try and plan out how exactly I was going to make it happen. Let’s just say between the tuition costs and my acting background it didn’t quite happen.
My dream may not have happened exactly how I envisioned it, but I’m really excited to say that I just booked a ticket to NYC without knowing exactly when I’m coming back. The timing couldn’t be more perfect right now and everything flowed into place with such ease. That’s when you know it’s right.
I’ve been trying to focus more on allowing things to flow in my life instead of forcing them. Forcing something to happen never feels good, and it usually never turns out how you envisioned it. This week I take a look at different times in my life that felt forced vs. when it just flowed.
Is there something in your life you’re trying to force right now? Ask yourself how well that’s working for ya.
My struggle with patience
Ever since I was a kid I’ve been known to be quite determined. When I have my mind set on something there’s no looking back. I throw everything I have into making it happen. Some might call it stubborn, but I believe if it feels right and I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, it’s considered determination.
As many benefits as there are to having a determined mindset, there is one thing I’ve always struggled with – patience! The lack of patience I have tends to produce a lot of anxiety. I have such a vision of where I want to be, but I struggle with the patience to get there. I tend to want it all, and want it now!
Becoming an entrepreneur has really tested my patience, and I realized I needed to create a system that will help me stay more present and enjoy the process. In this weeks video I share a simple strategy that has helped me chill out… a lot! It can also help YOU in many other areas of life, such as boosting motivation or confidence.
Stop Wasting Time
I have a confession to make. I really, really don’t like to feel like I’m ever wasting time and I like to be as productive as possible so at the end of the day I have more downtime for myself. I created the ‘Coupling Method’ which allows you to strategically plan ahead and feel extra productive. Who doesn’t love that feeling when you feel on top of the world after accomplishing everything on your to-do list? Check out this weeks video to see how you can incorporate the ‘Coupling Method’ into your life!
Summer Fun!
A couple of weeks ago I held an event called #summerofme, where I guided people through how to have their most incredible summer ever! I find many of us tend to do the same activities every year, which doesn’t allow us to grow, step outside our comfort zone and learn new things. I encourage you to make a point of thinking about how summer 2016 can be different from the rest. How can you transform these next few months into something you will be talking about for years to come? Check out this weeks video for a few easy tips on how to up your summertime fun!
How to be Happier
It can be easy to fall into a bit of a rut sometimes – especially when you’re doing the same thing day after day, week after week. Sometimes this can leave you feeling negative, unmotivated and bored. It’s important to not let your daily monotonous routine take a toll on your level of happiness, positivity and fulfillment. To keep flexing your happiness muscle there are a few easy things you can do to boost your mood instantly. Check them out in this weeks video!
Self Confidence
Confidence is one of those topics I LOVE talking about! It’s something most of us are always striving to find more of, and even though we know what confidence means and looks like, sometimes we still struggle to implement strategies to achieve it for ourselves.
It’s important to understand that there are different levels of confidence. The first is surface level confidence. This is where you appear confident on the outside but don’t necessarily feel it on the inside. This is where the classic phrase “fake it till you make it” comes in. It’s not necessarily a bad thing because sometimes by faking it we’re allowing ourselves to learn and get more comfortable in a situation. Once you get more comfortable with something you will start to notice your confidence naturally increase.
To be truly confident in who you are from a deeper standpoint, it’s important to work on what’s called your core confidence. This takes constant work and requires you to be patient with yourself. You didn’t enter this world without confidence. Somewhere down the line it’s been stripped from you – it’s mainly due to people judging you, reacting to you in a negative way, or making assumptions about you. These hurtful experiences are now etched into your own personal blueprint without you even possibly realizing.
There is one thing you need to be aware of before you can truly start working on building your core confidence and I share just what that is in this weeks video 🙂
How to let go of the past
We can be so freaking hard on ourselves sometimes! I’m sure there’s been a time in your life when you’ve done something you regret. Maybe you wish you had said something different or reacted differently in a situation. It’s easy to beat ourselves up after the fact, but it’s really important for your own mental health that you find a way to let it go and forgive yourself.
When we hold onto mistakes we remain stuck and end up staying on this wheel of regret which feeds our fears and insecurities. It’s important to acknowledge what you learned from the experience so when you’re faced with a similar situation you know exactly how you would handle it.
The past is the past and all you can do is learn from it, let it go and allow yourself to grow. It can be the most painful experiences that really force us to make changes in our thoughts and behaviours – but without those experiences we wouldn’t have the opportunity to learn how to be the best version of ourselves.
I hope this weeks video helps to shift your perspective about regrets and allows you to let go of the past and focus on who you want to be as you move forward towards a really fulfilling life!
Say NO
What do you mean? Oooh
When you nod your head yes
But you wanna say no
What do you mean? Heeey
I never thought I would quote Justin Bieber but there’s a first for everything!
I know a lot of people who have trouble spitting out the ‘N’ word. I believe many of us struggle with this because we’re people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone else is happy – even at our own expense. There is also a lot of guilt that comes up for many of us when we say no.
It’s important to learn how to stand your ground, because saying yes all the time when you wanna say no can cause you a lot of unnecessary stress! It also builds a lot of resentment towards other people when it’s really an internal issue you need to work on yourself. You shouldn’t blame other people for making you feel like you should say yes – that decision is fully on you and you need to work through why it’s so difficult for you to be honest about what you really want.
Being truthful and saying no actually shows a lot of confidence, and people will respect you more for staying true to who you are and what you want. People will likely be even more drawn to you because confidence is an attractive quality to have.
In this weeks video I give you some new perspectives to think about that will help you feel good about saying no! Check it out 🙂